Your exactly right about needing to accept that there is a problem, and in her case I'm the only 1 she's admitted that she's an "Alcoholic" so in that moment all I could do was praise her because she has now started Step 1 and probably without her even knowing that that's what she's done so what I do know is I just I can't give up on her, I don't have it in me to give up but I also don't have it in me too feed the demon either so it will be a an ongoing process I guess... thank you for your well wishes Kyle I truly appreciate it!!